About six weeks ago, I did an episode about feeling sorry for myself. Since then, as I’ve seen how that applies to me and how feeling sorry for oneself affects many people. I’ve come to understand a number of related topics, including Personal Power, which I discuss in this episode.

Highlights

• Step 1 in dealing with feeling sorry for yourself is to recognize the emotion and when it is coming up for you.
• I’ve come to realize how very different each one of us is and how there’s no way to truly understand what goes on inside of other people. The only one who can fully understand you is you.
• Many of our relationships are based on our wanting to be like other people.
• You have created your life outcomes, which indicates how powerful you really are.
• In our society, we haven’t learned how to embrace our differences as well as our similarities.
• I realize that you can never fully understand everything about me and what I’m actually feeling. But you can relate to what I’m saying.
• If we can each understand our differences, not just our similarities, we could live more peacefully with each other.
• To be comfortable with who you are, it’s important to accept how much power you have.
• In America, we have a huge amount of diversity, but a lot of people don’t want that diversity and don’t see its value.
• To stop feeling sorry for ourselves, we have to stop feeling like victims.
• When you start feeling powerless, examine your options and take action.
• When you’re looking at yourself, it can be hard to go deep and you may be seeing yourself from a negative point of view.
• This process can be complicated.
• Are you willing to look at yourself without thinking that who you are being and what you’re doing is wrong? Are you willing to go through a little bit of discomfort in order to move in a positive direction?

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How Feeling Sorry for Yourself Affects Your Life Outcomes – TPS451

As Principal and Founder of Ethos Consulting, David Newkirk brings over 30 years of experience working in large corporations, small privately owned companies and business start-ups. His work has been a source of innovative thinking that has changed how industries and business leaders adapt to the ongoing dynamic changes impacting them. The innovation has led to his creation of ADEPT6, a program that is changing how businesses adapt and make changes to sustain growth and profitability.

Highlights

• David explains how the essence of his spirituality expresses itself through his business and how he defines spirituality.
• When we are in unconditional love, we accept people for who they are in the moment.
• Unconditional love is a choice we make.
• Asking if someone is spiritual is passing judgement.
• David talks about his wide experience in business and how that has helped him develop strategies for companies.
• Because of his meditation practices, David is able to see and understand a wide picture that can help companies solve problems.
• Everything is energy and energy is always in motion and everything in life is energy. When we open up our intuition, each of us has a separate way of translating what we see.
• No one has more or less intuition, there are just different levels of development.
• Meditation is about setting up a way of being.
• The art of meditation is about observing and receiving.
• Enlightenment isn’t a state of being to achieve.
• We talk about purpose.
• Because you have freedom of choice, you can’t have regrets.

Links

Prosperity Place

David’s consulting site: www.ethosconsults.com

David’s meditation site: www.LightWarriorUnited.com

David on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ethosconsults/

A lot of business people, including those who are successful, often deal with stress, overwhelm, and worry. My goal has always been to be able to run my business without stress and to experience ongoing peace of mind. In this episode, I discussed how to achieve this state of peace of mind.

Highlights

• It takes a while to decide who you are, who you want to be, and what you want to do with your life.
• When you reach a place of peace, you’ll be happier, healthier, and more productive without pushing yourself.
• You have to learn how to “read” the inner signals that help you discriminate between what you need and what you don’t need.
• If your goal is to experience success and peace of mind, you have to make the decision to do that.
• The question isn’t what do you want to do, but who do you want to be.
• Are you aware of the emotions that are driving you?
• The difference between happiness and contentment is the corresponding brain chemicals.
• Is it possible to live in a state of gratitude, acceptance, and satisfaction?
• I was guided to learn to experience equanimity rather than getting hyper-excited about what was going on in my life.
• You can train yourself to be in that state of equanimity, which allows you to live your life without stress.
• Peace of mind requires a habit of acceptance and satisfaction and getting there, requires being aware of the habitual emotions that keep you from getting there.
• This requires practicing and developing self-awareness and deciding what you want to be feeling instead of what you’re feeling now.
• You have many different aspects of your personality. It takes a while to recognize which one of your aspects you’re being at any moment.
• The system that I teach is about developing new responses to familiar stimuli so that things that normally trigger you no longer do.
• One of the ways of becoming aware of your current emotional responses is through your money. I explain.
• Start noticing the kinesthetic experience in your body any time you’re dealing with money. Do you feel contracted or expanded?
• You can decide how you want to feel.
• What will it take for you to be okay in this moment?

Links

Prosperity Place

TPS episode on Empathetic Detachment

The Hacking of the American Mind by Robert H Lustig, M.D., MSL

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