David Wood is a high-performance coach for executives, entrepreneurs, and teams and the author of “Get Paid For Who You Are.” He was nominated to the Transformational Leadership Council alongside such thought leaders as Don Miguel Ruiz, John Gray, and Marianne Williamson. David believes the tough conversations we avoid are our doorways to confidence, success, and even love – in both work and life. In this episode, we talk about having tough conversations about money and race.

Highlights:

• David tells us how he decided to focus on tough conversations when he worked in corporate and eventually learned about things like emotional intelligence and other personal growth techniques.
• When conversations are looming, we tend to avoid them.
• With the CARE model David uses, the first step is to ask, “What is your hope for this conversation, what is your fear?”
• I ask David what keeps people from talking about money. I use an example of when a husband racks of credit card charges but is afraid to tell his wife. He shows us how to use the CARE model in this case.
• There is often a fear of loss.
• We spend time talking about difficult conversations about race relations.
• David shares his position as a privileged white male and what he has to do in order to have the race conversation.
• It’s only in the past few weeks that David has been developing awareness about what goes on for blacks.
• David is trying to understand his own whiteness, privilege, and unconscious bias.

Links:

Prosperity Place

Get the CARE worksheet on David’s site: www.playforreal.life where there is also information about his coaching.

Bob Doyle is the facilitator of the “Wealth Beyond Reason” program and one of the featured teachers in the film and book “The Secret“.  Since 2002, his primary focus has been on teaching the practical implementation of Law of Attraction principles, and moving people past the blocks that keep them from living a life of purpose, passion, and true abundance. He is also part of the new film ‘How Thoughts Become Things.’

Highlights

• Our inability to express ourselves creatively is at the root of a lot of our problems.
• After many of his attempts at a career failed, Bob became interested in metaphysics and the Law of Attraction and came to understand how our thoughts affect our outer results.
• The most important thing is to determine who you want to be in the vision you hold.
• Bob shares the fascinating story of how he became the teacher he is today.
• A lot came out from The Secret about the Law of Attraction that complicated things and confused people.
• Feelings cause the vibration that leads to creation.
• We have choices as to how we want to feel, but we don’t know it.
• During an upset, get into the observer mode.
• We talk about “The Universe” and your relation to it.
• Bob talks about what he went through to learn about taking care of his business and money.
• Start by deciding who you want to be for now.
• Pay attention to where you aren’t satisfied.
• It takes time to go from where you are to where you want to be.
• If you want to use the Law of Attraction for solving problems it will keep you stuck in the problem.
• Having the belief that everything has to be hard keeps you stuck.
• The most important thing is for you to decide who you want to be.

Links

Prosperity Place

Bob’s site: www.MeetBobDoyle.com

How Thoughts Become Things – The movie

I read an article this week in Neuroscience News about how Repetitive Negative Thinking (RNT) can lead to cognitive decline and the buildup of proteins associated with Alzheimer’s. In this episode, I talk about how to eliminate negative self-talk and thinking with brain training in order to prevent loss of cognitive function.

Highlights

• A lot of physical and mental problems that come with aging can be prevented.
• Although the study cited in Neuroscience News was done with people 55 and older, no matter what your age, it’s important to prevent problems as you age.
• Negative thinking patterns are habits. I talk about how they start as protective measures and because of the way brains are wired.
• Hypervigilance is a common result of difficult childhood experiences.
• The trick is to recognize your patterns and make a commitment to changing them.
• Start by recognizing when you use the word should. Then take a deep breath and use a positive statement such as You’re doing fine.
• Lead with love.
• You can create a benevolent mother or father in your mind who reparents you.
• What if what we imagine is going to happen is what is going to happen.
• Meditation can help you recognize what’s going on in your mind.
• The more positive my thinking becomes, the more positive things happen for me.
• If you stop being angry, that doesn’t mean you have to stop working for positive
  societal change.
• Anger can be transmuted into a positive force.

Links

Prosperity Place

The Adverse Childhood Experience Test

Tina Greenbaum works with executives who want to increase their performance level in high stakes, high-pressure situations. An Optimal Performance Specialist and Sports Psychology Consultant, Tina’s signature program, Mastery Under Pressure empowers leaders and their teams using cutting-edge technology, neuroscience, energy psychology, sports psychology, and current learning theory.

Highlights

• Tina is a trained psychotherapist who intuitively knew that there was a better way of treating eating disorders.
• She now focuses on anxiety, teaching people how to train the mind to overcome its reaction to perceived danger.
• If you practice deep diaphragmatic breathing, when you are in a difficult situation, the deep breathing will happen naturally.
• If you have a lot of worrying thoughts, ask, “Do my thoughts produce something useful for me?”
• Stress comes when you seem to be out of control.
• People under stress don’t see their options.
• When you feel you don’t have control, ask, “What can I do now?”
• When we live in the past or future, we need to get back to the present.
• The issues of those in higher positions have different kinds of problems to solve and they still have to manage their anxiety.
• Good leaders have faith they can find answers to their problems.
• Resilient people have a specific language they use. Tina gives us examples.
• People get used to their comfort zone and have to learn to tolerate the uncertainty that comes with change.
• Tina offers suggestions for dealing with uncertainty.
• The challenge is living in a state of curiosity.
• It’s important to understand why you can’t get instant results. Tina explains.
• Meditation quiets the amygdala and builds new connections to the prefrontal cortex, which helps you make better decisions.
• If you want to change anything in your life, you have to change yourself.
• The secret lies not in what you are doing but in who you are being.

Links:

Prosperity Place

Tina’s site: www.TinaGreenbaum.com