Just like everything else, your self-concept is a habit that affects all of your decisions. Protecting your identity often keeps you from moving forward. In this episode, I talk about The Identity Factor and how you can move past the restraints and puts on you as you try to keep yourself safe.
Highlights
- Definition of The Identity Factor: A mechanism that kicks in – subconsciously – whenever you try to make a significant internal change that will affect your self-concept and your position in the world. There’s a fear that if you make these changes, it will lead to your being alone and alienated.
- I talk about the behavioral effects of The Identity Factor.
- Common among successful people is that they never feel satisfied. So learning to be satisfied is a threat to who they perceive themselves to be – even though they understand that learning to be satisfied could make them more comfortable.
- We are programmed to always want more, which keeps us unsatisfied.
- If you have a habit of feeling alone, learning to feel connected can be a threat to your identity.
- It is perfectly natural to resist major changes to how you have been. It’s easier for younger people than for older people.
- Are you willing to look at who you have been so you can decide who you want to be?
- It takes courage to let people know who you really are.
- In order for your life to change, you have to change.
- The more adept you are at change, the better your life will be – even though those periods of change can be uncomfortable.
- To become naturally prosperous – where you really feel rich – you need to look at many internal aspects of yourself and be willing to make changes.
- Each person has a unique combination of things they have to work on to become more comfortable.
- To be a full human being, we have to learn how to live in society and we get to choose how we want to do that and who we want to connect to.
- Your external world is just a reflection of what’s going on inside of you.
Links
The Rapid Money Energy Tuneup
What Happened to You? by Oprah Winfrey & Bruce D. Perry